3 Quick Changes That Will Make Your Ex Want You Back
February 17, 2011 by Rod
Filed under Get Back Together
3 Quick Changes That Will Make Your Ex Want You Back
Trying to make your ex boyfriend or girlfriend fall back in love with you? Join the club. At one time or another we all try to reverse an unwanted breakup, but without proper knowledge it’s usually an uphill climb.
One of the biggest problems is often the most difficult to overcome: after a breakup, it’s too easy to focus only on what you want. To get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back, you need to first make them want you again… until that happens, you’re just spinning your wheels.
And while there are lots of ways to recapture your ex’s attention, most of them are outright bad. Trying to call, email, text-message, or otherwise stalk your ex is always going to end in disappointment, as the boyfriend or girlfriend who once loved you so much ends up pushing you coldly away.
So what can you do to get your ex back, if you’re not supposed to contact them? What methods can you use that will draw positive attention to yourself, instead of negative?
Becoming a Total Mystery To Your Ex
Whether you realize it or not, your ex is paying a lot of attention to you after the breakup. They want to see you home, alone, sad, depressed, and even mourning the end of your relationship. This isn’t because your ex hates you or anything like that, in fact it’s just the opposite. Your ex still has unresolved emotional ties to you, and they want to see that even though they broke up with you, you really did care about them.
At the same time however, sitting at home waiting for your ex to come back is the worst possible thing you can do. It gives your ex comfort and security to know you’re not going anywhere – at least not right now – which allows them the freedom to pursue other interests and maintain the breakup for as long as possible. This is why you need to drop off your ex’s radar and become totally invisible to them, as quickly as possible. The less your boyfriend or girlfriend knows about your post-breakup life, the more they’ll want to know.
Becoming The Person Your Ex Fell In Love With
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when everything was puppy dogs and ice cream? When everything you said and did together was fun, drama-free, and totally awesome?
The good news is that your ex boyfriend or girlfriend also remembers these times. Which is why the more you can recreate the person you were at the beginning of your relationship, the greater your chances for making your ex fall right back in love with you.
Were you stronger? Leaner? More confident? Did you tell your ex nice things, pay them frequent compliments, and were you much more supportive than you were at the end of your romance? It’s not uncommon for your relationship to slip a bit over time, but the more you can get back to how things were “in the old days”, the faster you can make your ex want you again.
Becoming a Charismatic Whirlwind of Fun
Have you lost all confidence since your boyfriend or girlfriend dumped you? Well get your chin up, because confidence is the only thing that will get your ex back. Until you’re strong, independent, and genuinely happy again, you’re not presenting anything that your ex would actually want to date a second time around.
In short, your ex should look over their shoulder at you and see nothing but success. You should be out, active, hanging with friends and having the time of your life. It should be as if the breakup hasn’t affected you at all, and you should surround yourself with people and activities that your ex would also want to be around. By generating positive buzz and charisma within your post-breakup life, your ex will be jealous that they let you go in the first place.
In the end, getting your ex to want you back is all about making them MISS you. There should be a big empty hole in your boyfriend or girlfriend’s life that used to be filled by fun times with you. You want your ex to be nostalgic about how things used to be, so when they finally do call you can use this springboard to jump back into a happy, active relationship with them.
Want your ex back? Make sure you have a step by step plan. Know what to do, what to say, and what your opening moves should be before taking a single step in your ex’s direction.
There are 8 Individual Steps that will help Get Your Boyfriend Back, or in the opposite case, Win Your Girlfriend Back. Learn what your opening moves should be, and how you can make your ex want you again
